the danger of busyness

It is so difficult for me to stay still. I love to go go go and be involved in everything. If there is a night where i don't have something to do, i just have to fill it with something. For a long time i just thought that is the way i am. I am task oriented with a side helping of some ADD tendencies. This past week, God has shown me just what the cost is for staying busy.
As i have been taking this class that has been focusing on listening skills in counseling, i have realized that in my busyness i don't have enough to give people. Truthfully, the problem is that i don't have enough space to accept people. Let me explain. In my go go go mindset, my mind is constantly moving and i am often mentally in a different place then where i am physically. Because i choose to be involved in so many different things, there are a lot of plates to keep spinning. While i find great satisfaction in all these areas, i find it difficult to be able to rest and be present where i am. So, while im at church on sunday im thinking about what were doing for lunch. When were at lunch im figuring out what i need to do in the afternoon so that my monday can work.
God tells us to be still. In my life its really a command for us to trust Him. That its not up to me to make my life work, God will. I have spent the last couple of years learning to be still with God and enjoy Him. What is new this week is that i have seen the cost in relationships from my busyness. Often I am unable to really listen to people because my mind is still racing. Im sitting hearing them, but my heart and soul aren't being offered to them. It isn't a contious choice. It is the reality of living life at such a frantic pace. For me to really love the people that i am listening to, i have to be able to be fully present with them listening, empathizing, and giving them myself. For this to happen, i have to life my whole life differently so that i have that capacity. I need to slow down, intentionally say no, and learn to enjoy and be present wherever i am.
I feel God has shown me this in a very gracious way. I really want to love people and become a better listener. I think my tendency is to try to fix people's problems that i listen to. I think that is because i am impatent and want to move on instead of loving people, trusting God's work in their lives, and being present with them in their place of brokenness.
God change me. This feels big and contrary to my nature. Grow me in patience, self-control, and love.